Welcome to the blog for SMART LADIES. My friends call me Uncle Lucky. I don’t claim to be a relationship expert, but I have been observing my fellow men and how they relate with women as regards dating.
This blog was launched on December 24, 2013 as upgradeyourdating.com/secets but changed to upgradeyourdating.blogspot.com on May 8, 2014. This is to serve as a platform for sharing what we have learned, observed, or gleaned from the interviews of those who have “been there, done that, got a T-shirt.” As we all know, experience is the best teacher, but no one lives forever, so it is much better to learn from the experiences of others. It saves time, money, and sometimes, life. An adage says, “If the toad in front falls into a pit, the others will take caution.”
What I’m about to share with you is not based on my opinions alone. I have read a lot of books on relationship, but that’s not all. With my tape recorder and a notepad, I went into town and interviewed (and I’m still interviewing) hundreds of men and women across the length and breadth of Nigeria (single, married, divorced). I was lucky to meet with some ladies who are ‘running the show’ in their relationships (not by manipulation or ‘African remote control’), but by mastering these simple but abnormal secrets. (Hush! They asked me not to mention their names!).
It was easy for all the interviewees to speak to me and bare it all because, first, I’m a man, and second, I’m a reporter with a valid ID card (working with one of the oldest and best magazines in this country).
So, if you keep following this blog (especially if you subscribe to my free newsletters via the opt-in form, I shall be sharing the following as well as testimonials from people:
How to catch a man at his own game by knowing how he thinks
Things you must know about men to beat them to their own games (i will show you why men do what they do, and how to counter them; no manipulations!!!)
How to make a man literally hunt/chase you forever even when you become his wife, because if the chase or hunts stops, you become boring!
Four (4) questions you must ask on your first date (if you can genuinely and effectively ask these questions, you will never again waste your life with the wrong guy)
How to shift from being a boring woman to an exciting, interesting one (the reason men prefer ‘crazy’ ladies to ‘nice’ ones)
What to do when he doesn’t propose to you (If you know this, getting a ring on that finger will be a matter of whether YOU want it or not; not him)
How to know whether you are a ‘too nice’ lady or a pleasantly ‘crazy’ one. (If the ailment is not diagnosed, how can you treat it?)
A better road to a man’s heart apart from food and…sex! (This smooth, never-failing, royal road to his heart – will make him want to go to the ends of the earth for you)
How to be a consistent rules player! (You must complete a dosage to access the full curative powers of a drug)
How not to behave as regards phone conversations
What never to say on your first date (never!!!)
The two questions you must ask a man during the probationary period
If you must have sex with him, how long is long enough? (i will show you the recommendations of experts and why it is the called the probationary period, + the ‘full package’)
Some wrong notions about sex dispelled!
How to keep your emotions under control
What to do when a man takes you for granted, disrespects you, or deliberately tests you.
What you might not know about nagging and talkativeness
Your dressing and the message it sends
Some basic ingredients of the right guy (how to ‘sieve’ them, to know whether to keep him or ‘check next door’)
And if you don’t mind, there are ways to know whether your man is cheating
Do you really know your worth? (The power most women don’t even know they have!)