This is the concluding part of 'how a smart lady should handle her telephone conversations with her "toaster" especially during the early days of the dating period.
Disclaimer: Results will vary, and you should not use this information as a substitute for help from a licensed professional. These are the opinions of people (including the author’s); nothing is cast in stone.
Now, here is Pt.3
1. Rushed appointment on the phone:
If he wants to see you at 8pm, he must call you up earlier so you can plan your time too, except if it is urgent and life-threatening. If you don’t check this, he will definitely keep taking you for granted and eventually think you don’t have a hold of your life.
2. When he didn't call as promised:
When he finally calls, don’t rush to pick it up. And when he starts talking, don’t sound like you are angry. But if you don’t hear from him the whole day, call him up to check – he could be in trouble. When ‘no trouble’ is confirmed, don’t ask him why he didn't call you (he’s expecting you to, but you are not a ‘nice’ girl).
3. Phone-shifting appointment:
He calls to shift an appointment, let’s say from 3 to 4pm, and then again from 4 to 5pm; don’t argue the first and second time. But when he calls a third time to do the same thing, don’t act like you are angry; simply tell him to take care of his business first. Let him know you won’t pressure him to go out of his way. In fact let him know it has to be another day, so you can also take care of your business instead of waiting for the next ‘shifting’ of the appointment. That’s a smart, crazy woman; no unnecessary emotions, just the voice of reason.
4. Setting the rules of time:
If you don’t like taking calls after 11pm, don’t hesitate to let him know. However, it’s good to bend some rules sometimes but there’s got to be a reason.
5. He doesn't call when he’s out of town:
If he’s out of town and he doesn't call you all through his stay, ensure you call him to know if he arrived at the place safely. If he doesn't call you while there, no problem. But when he wants your attention immediately he returns, don’t make yourself available immediately, unless you knew why he couldn't call you.
6. Not in the mood:
If you sense in his tone that he seems not to be in the right mood, and it doesn't seem he wants to talk about it, calmly tell him you've got something to take care of, and politely end the call.
7. Short and sweet:
This is how you must keep the conversations on the phone, unless when necessary, so you don’t become boring. And he will always enjoy calling you. K.I.S.S. Keep It Short and Sweet.
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