TELEPHONE MANNERS DURING THE PROBATIONARY PERIOD

WHAT IS THE PROBATIONARY PERIOD? 

(Note: After reading this, ensure you also read 'Talking Him Out Of Your Life' in PART 3 of the eBook "Why Men Dump Nice Ladies...")

Don’t get it twisted: you apply for a job, and you get a call for an interview. You get hired after the interview and guess what? You are placed on probation for two or three months, depending on the company. During this period, you are not entitled to the full salary or any other benefits. Some ‘mean’ companies won’t even pay anything except for a meagre TA (Transport Allowance), until they are satisfied with the stuff you are made of. Guarantor’s form would have been completed and indemnity angle covered. Then you have the full package! 

Dear lady, from the first date you have with a man till you are ready to give him your ‘full package’, you must learn to place him on a probationary period. This is my candid advice. This is extensively discussed in Part 3 of the eBook. Send me an email on unclelucky123@gmail.com if you want it.

During the early days of the dating period, there are certain things smart, crazy girls will never say over the phone. They are wise enough to know that conversations on the phone can make or mar a relationship that was hitherto headed for the skies.

I don’t want to bore you with when to give out your phone number to a guy. I once read an eBook that talked about how to get a lady’s phone number in five minutes. That’s not my business if he already has your phone number. 

Mind you, some people have argued that the way you hand out your phone number shows whether you are desperate, mature, seriously searching, etc. or not. My take: if someone (who looks like your kind of man) respectfully asks for your phone number, and you know ‘that you know’ that you are searching, what are you waiting for? An African proverb says, “All lizards lie prostrate, you can’t tell the one that has stomach ache.” However, it doesn't mean every ‘Tomisi, Dike and Haruna’ should have your number. Let’s just fast-forward to the time he already has your number.

1. Respect me and I will respect you, even more:

You are both on first-name basis for now and the excitement just began. We (men) get angry when we call you the first time and instead of just ignoring the call (probably because you are busy), you pick the call, and with an annoyingly croaky voice, you say ‘Hello’. Then, you’d say, “I’m busy” or “I can’t talk right now.”

Interpretation: you knew you were busy yet you picked the call. It’s 2p.m. and you’re sounding like you just woke up from bed. It’s time to delete this number.

A classy, 'crazy' woman won’t pick the call if she’s busy. She is wise enough to know that the phone doesn't control her life, she does. If she picks, she is not stupid, she is only considerate. Hear her: “Hello” (in a fairly warm and friendly voice). How are you doing…my boss just walked in, please let’s talk some other time. Have a great day.”

Now, the guy feels good, he is ‘hopeful’, and he already knows he’s dealing with a respectful, mature woman who also takes her job and people seriously.

Result: the guy waits for a seemingly appropriate time to call her. It’s a woman’s world; you just don’t know it yet!

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