“…It is not beauty that makes a siren but rather a theatrical streak that allows a woman to embody a man’s fantasies. A man grows bored with a woman, no matter how beautiful; he yearns for different pleasures, and for adventure. All a woman needs to turn this around is to create the illusion that she offers such variety and adventure. A man is easily deceived by appearances; he has a weakness for the visual. Create the physical presence of a siren (heightened sexual allure mixed with a regal and theatrical manner) and he is trapped. He cannot grow bored with you yet he cannot discard you. Keep up the distractions and never let him see who you really are. He will follow you until he drowns.” (Culled from ‘The Art of Seduction, by Robert Greene)
HOW TO SUSTAIN THE INTEREST: The Boring Woman Versus The Interesting Woman
Dear lady, to be different, you have to do things differently. Every ‘nice’ woman out there follows the routine and men are easily bored by monotony. In a desperate attempt to get a man’s attention, many a girl begins to overcompensate and compromise her life. At first, we will relish it; we will savour the moment. But as pointed out earlier, we soon begin to get bored.
Once we notice a pattern, something inside us begins to yearn for something different – away from what we are now used to.
Being ‘too nice’ is the greatest mistake in a relationship. Your overcompensation may seem charming at first, but if you are unable to blend it with a measure of unpredictability, we begin to see you as someone who’s trying too hard to please us. We see it as insecurity, desperation, etc. on your part. At first, ‘niceness’ will draw people to you, but if not alternated (regulated), it will soon lose its effect.
Life is not that easy, dear woman, and you know this. And if you live in a busy city like Lagos or Port Harcourt, you will understand that men, after all said and done, don’t want more harsh realities. We need some fantasies, illusion, play. We tend to gravitate toward the woman who can offer us these and more. But be careful, understand yourself – your strength, and understand us too, lest you become a ‘slimy manipulator’, and this turns men off.
To achieve this therefore, there are a few very simple ways to go about it, as gleaned from the interviews and personal observations. Here we go!
1. The interesting, charming woman doesn’t speak quickly or aggressively; her voice is never raised high. Shouting is common with most women, so you’ve got to be different. Her voice is always calm, not hurried. Cultivate such a habit and a man will be hooked, because he just can’t understand you. According to Robert Greene, “Anything that cannot immediately be understood is supremely seductive…” And the chase continues!
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