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- The achievement/accomplishment drive:
He wants to be successful; he wants to FEEL successful. We all need to feel that we’ve achieved something meaningful in life. Remember Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs? This is the fourth item (bottom up) on the pyramid. It is more pronounced in men than it is in women. Self-esteem, confidence, achievement, respect by others, etc. – all these and more are what we want to achieve through our business, jobs or careers. As far as we are concerned, if we work hard to attain this level, it will improve our relationship, especially the quality of our family life. Now, imagine when we seem to be failing on this turf. Do you think we will become better lovers, husbands, etc.? It will certainly affect us. UNDERSTAND THIS AND YOU WILL AVOID MANY HEADACHES.
- Protection duty:
We see it as a duty to protect you. Ever wonder why men fight, quarrel, or even kill, just to protect their girlfriends? Remember those stories in school about cult gangs who would cause chaos on campus just because some ‘bloody civilian’ stepped on the toes of a ‘Cappo’ by molesting his (the Cappo’s) girlfriend? That’s how far we can go to protect our women. The feeling is innate. We even take pride in protecting (or feeling that we are protecting) our mothers or sisters. You don’t want to know how bad we feel when we seem to fail in this department. That’s why you must be careful what you ‘report’ to your man; you might just get him into trouble when he tries to fight for you.
10. We just need your support:
It’s amazing how simple the things we need are. We like to feel that you’ve got our back – someone to give us a pat on the back and say, “go on my hero, I’m here for you, always.” Are we asking for too much? Even if the whole world is against us, we like to come back home and have our woman treat us like a king. When she says, “Thank you dear, I appreciate all you’re doing and what you just did for the kids,” our head swells, but we won’t show it. But you can bet we will be ready to do more. For more on this, see PART 3 of the eBook: "Why men dump 'nice' ladies..." under the topic 'The Road To A Man’s Heart, Apart From Food…And Sex'
11. Your loyalty highly needed:
Last but not least, we need your loyalty at all times. No matter what you do or who you are, if you ever give us the impression that you will leave us during the hard times, we will be disappointed. We will treat you as a ‘fair-weather’ friend. We need someone to always count on no matter what. We walk into a room full of celebrities and we lose your attention; you saw Jim Iyke or Ramsey Nouah and you suddenly became a stranger; at the shopping mall, we ran into your friends and you ‘excused’ me even without any introduction, forgetting that my account would soon be depleted by your shopping greed.
We already know it is difficult to find loyal people, male or female, so we get hooked to the lady who will stick with us when the salary is delayed or gone; when the contract has been ‘hijacked’ because of party politics; when family and friends disappoint us; when we get embarrassed in public; etc.
12. What sex means to him:
The fact that we love sex doesn’t mean we attach the same feelings with every woman we have sex with. I once read somewhere that before sex, a man is not thinking straight, but a woman is; after sex, a man is thinking straight but a woman is not. That’s when she gets emotional. A man can simply take a shower and behave as if nothing just happened. That’s just who we are. And women just can’t get it. Yes, some women can’t understand why.
Note: It doesn't mean there are not men out there who get 'spiritually and emotionally' attached to women they have slept with. It is just that some of them are not that spiritually sensitive enough to know. Someone once said that "We can see the end of a man's sexual organ, but that of a woman, you can never know where it ends. Some are linked to shrines..." (Please don't ask me how this man knew this: it depends on what you believe in)
Don’t get me wrong, most men who cheat on their wives have great respect for them; don’t ask me why they do it. That’s another book. This is discussed in PART 3 of the eBook “Why men dump ‘nice’ ladies…” under the topic: Why Do Men Cheat?
In the next article, we shall be discussing the concluding part of this. Don’t hesitate to share with your friends by hitting the button below
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