TELEPHONE MANNERS DURING THE PROBATIONARY PERIOD (2)

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2. ‘Where are you?’ before ‘How are you?’ and other nagging questions:

While growing up, I used to hear my mum advice people that “how are you” is the ‘elder brother’ to “where are you.” Smart, crazy women know this and each time they get on the phone with you, they are interested in the ‘how’, not necessarily in the ‘where’, unless it is necessary.

Where are you? Why didn't you call me the number of times you used to? Where did you go after work today? Why didn't you go home straight? Why was your phone switched off earlier today? Why did you turn off the ringer? … Slow down woman, you are not his mother!

2. Slave to phone routine:

He’s used to calling you every 6pm and by 5:55p.m, you shut down your life in anticipation of the call. Don’t you have something important to do with your time? Come on, you are ‘too nice.’ If he calls by 6p.m, it’s fine; if he doesn't call, it’s still fine – that’s a ‘crazy’, mature, smart woman!

3. Balance:

You called him twice and he didn't pick, and he’s taking his time to return the call. Don’t get me wrong, he’s probably busy; that’s no problem. But when he returns the call, do not rush to pick it up. In fact, let it equally ring twice before picking it up. And when you pick, don’t ask him why he didn't pick yours (almost every girl does that and he’s expecting that from you too, but you are different and he doesn't seem to understand you fully).

4. Rushed appointment on the phone:

If he wants to see you at 8pm, he must call you up earlier so you can plan your time too, except if it is urgent and life-threatening. If you don’t check this, he will definitely keep taking you for granted and eventually think you don’t have a hold of your life.

5. Short and sweet: This is how you must keep the conversations on the phone, unless when necessary, so you don’t become boring. And he will always enjoy calling you. K.I.S.S. Keep It Short and Sweet. Consider this: “Hello honey, how was your day? I hope you are fine. I just got home and I thought to check on you. Have a good night rest baby.” And once you are off the phone, the guy is wishing you had continued. See the difference?

6. There’s a caller on the other line: 

You are on the phone with him and an important call comes in. Tell him there’s a call you need to pick. When he calls back, don’t be in such a hurry to reveal the identity of the caller. In fact at the early stage, it’s not even his business, so even if he asks, you have a right not to talk about it. Use discretion here. If your man is excessively jealous, use your head; you can ignore the call and call back later.

7. I just want to hear your voice:

Don’t be a slave to the phone or his voice over the phone. You call up your man five times a day just to tell him, “I just want to hear your voice.” Really? You are cheapening yourself; you are on your way to boring him! Some ‘too nice’ and naive girls record the voice of their guys and replay it always. How banal!

8. Flashing: 

Smart, ‘crazy’ girls don’t ‘flash’. If you can’t spend money to call him, then SEND HIM A TEXT MESSAGE or forget about it. (Unless it is unavoidable). Don’t cheapen yourself.

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